Fiction for a Cure

Fiction for a Cure to benefit Relay for Life of Second Life

100% of proceeds and donations benefit Relay for Life of SL

July 11th began Fiction for a Cure – a charity event to benefit Relay for Life of Second Life!

Here are just a few reasons why YOU want to be a part of it:

  • More than 30 authors will be auctioning signed and rare editions of their books in a silent auction and a live auction.
  • For the shopaholics (don’t look at me!) there will be raffles for HUGE prizes from some of your favorite stores! (*cough* Cheeky Pea, Exile, Alouette, Exposeur and more *cough, cough*)
  • There will be classes to teach you all sorts of cool things!

Michael A. Stackpole will teach a class on 21 Days to a Novel.

He and Kat Alderson will teach an Introduction to Intellectual Property class – a must for any SL creator.

And YOURS TRULY will be teaching a class on Blogging “Best Practices” for SL & RL!

It will be my first time ever teaching a class, much less on voice, so you may want to come just to hear me flounder!

Either way, it’s all for a GREAT cause. 100% of all proceeds and donations will benefit Relay for Life of Second Life.

Please stop by! I look forward to seeing you there!

Visit the Fiction for a Cure website for more information

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Learning How to “Be”

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Life is full of expectations, of what we want to achieve, what we hope to gain, how we feel something will play out. Despite how hard we work or how well we prepare, nothing is guaranteed. Some expectations may come to fruition, and others will be laid to waste, with no pre-indication.

We attempt to label and define our lives, believing that doing so will provide some sort of security against the unexpected. People marry and become “spouses” to cement their relationship, students earn degrees and become “college graduates” to secure their futures – yet spouses still divorce, and college graduates still end up working in fast food joints.

We’re so busy worrying about achieving what we want, and then securing what we’ve achieved, that we often forget to relish the present.

What would happen if we were to just “be” whatever we are right now. Not have a goal in which we pressure ourselves to reach; not apply labels, rules and restrictions to various aspects of our lives. If we were to take a more mindful, even yogic approach, what would be the worst that could happen?

I’m willing to give it a try. How about you?

Credits:

Hair: Liquence – F8 in Natural Fades

Jewelry: ISON – Safari Tribe Set in Gold {available at Collabor88}

Skin: Essences – Emma in Noisette

Outfit: Tres Blah – Khaki Blouse and Shorts {available at Collabor88}

Shoes: Hucci – Hampstead Sandal in Mud {available at Collabor88}

Pose: Magnifique

All of Me

I Am... 3 Since I began SL in 2008, my avatar has taken on hundreds of forms. The permutations of hair, skin, eyes, shape, eyelashes, nail polishes, makeup, clothing, shoes, accessories, tattoos, are endless. For most of my SLife, I’ve worn black hair, but I’ve also worn blonde, brunette, red, purple and pink. I wore the same shape, hair and skin for a whole year before I upgraded, and now I hardly think twice about changing them. But regardless of the combination, even if I’m on an alt, I like to believe there is a formula that is specific only to me that makes me somewhat recognizable – even if only to those who know me – amongst the crowd. Because, after all, I’m always me.

It is an ugly truth that people are judged by the way they look. An even uglier truth is that people are judged by those that love them. I think females are especially susceptible. RL husbands tell their wives, “You’d better not cut your hair that short,” when the wife takes notice of the lady with the cute bob. Mothers tell their little girls, “I’m not taking you out like that. Nothing you’re wearing matches. Go change.” Women spend ridiculous amounts of money trying to stay thin, avoid stretch marks when pregnant, and putting their own bodies at risk to have cosmetic surgeries, all for fear that not maintaining the status quo would change how others see and feel about them.

It even happens in SL. I have been told at times throughout my SLife, by more than one man and even a female friend, explicitly and implicitly, that my new shape, skin, hair (fill in the blank) was inferior to a previous version. To add insult to injury, some have even added a dash of sarcasm, or shall we call it cruelty, for good measure.

Case in Point:

Yesterday I TP home to a guy who claims to be utterly and completely in love with me.

He immediately writes, “Ummmmm” and before he’s even hit the Enter key, I’ve already started typing, “Yep, it’s a diff shape,” because I already know what’s coming. He then says, “What have you done to your face?” Not, “Oh, you changed your shape,” or “You look different” (much less “cute” or “pretty”). His tone, even in text, emanates disapproval. He then asks, “Because ……?” to which I reply:

  • Because I wanted to?
  • Felt like it?
  • Like to mix things up once in a while?
  • Can always go back?
  • Like having different looks?
  • Like keeping people on their toes?

After a few minutes of sitting there on the sofa in what seemed like never-ending silence, I TPd away and turned off his ability to find me on the map. I wanted to be away: from him, from our home, from being judged, from being made to feel inadequate, less than, and not good enough.

Thirty minutes later, he says, “I’m sorry,” and asks if I’m going to say anything. I couldn’t get into a conversation then because I had to log for RL, but said I’d try to come back. An hour later I was able to log back in, but for only a few minutes. I still didn’t have the necessary time it would take to discuss all this, and told him as much before I was about to log. And then, he sent me a friend request. Without me realizing it, he had defriended me.

An already bad situation just got exponentially worse, because to me, defriending someone is about the biggest slap in the face you can give to someone in SL, especially when it’s done in anger. Even when I may have had a falling out with friends in the past, I was never the one to defriend them, because the unknown risk is: You may never get them back.

I know a meek SL blog is not the best place to air such grievances, but I do so with a purpose. If there is anyone out there – male or female, SL or RL – who is judged on the outside by those who claim to love you, just remember:

“Love” is unconditional – and that’s not an option, it’s a requirement.

If someone doesn’t love the PERSON you are on the inside REGARDLESS of any and all permutations outside, then that’s not love at all. Any “love” that pretends to be otherwise is bullshit.

Life is too short to essentially not live it, because you’re not free to change, to please someone else. They have their own bodies and lives to control. Be sure you have yours.

Lean on Me

Independence

Ahh, warm weather has FINALLY made it to the Great White North! I’m not much of a beach person in RL, but Dani and I spent some time chillaxin’ on the sand this week and I must admit, I quite enjoyed myself! We wanted to get together so we could participate in Strawberry Singh’s last meme, the Second Life Friends List Meme. Here are my answers:

What is the number of contacts on your Second Life Friends List? 195

Are you picky about who you add to your list or do you usually add most people? A lot of people on my Friends List are business acquaintances, but many of them I also consider friends in addition to my besties sprinkled throughout.

Who is your oldest contact? (check your calling cards) Sibelius Amat. I was 12 days old when we met. The sexiest Scottishman I’ve ever met!

Who is your newest contact? (check your calling cards) Kyletee Resident

Do you know every single person on your list? To varying degrees, yes.

How many do you speak to on a daily (weekly) basis? Daily, 3-5. Weekly, 6-10.

How many do you see/get together with in-world on a daily (weekly) basis? 4-5.

Who on your list do you have the closest relationship with? DanicaSaerwen. She and I talk everyday without fail, if not in-world, then via Skype.

Who do you wish you knew better? Is it lame to say “everyone”? I value SL people and relationships, and there is always room to know someone better than you already do!

Who on your list is the funniest/most entertaining? Galea Steinbeck. She and I connect on a completely unique level, and our conversations are always rapid-fire laughs. I love talking to her.

How did you meet most of the people on your list? (work, parties, etc…) Most of them are business contacts from my Seraphim days. My other friends I met exploring SL over the years.

Do you ever clean out your list? I hardly ever remove anyone unless having them in my list, for one reason or another, creates a negative response. Even if I’ve upset someone to the point where they are mad at me, I still would not be the person to do the deleting. I always believe bridges can be mended between adults.

Do you have a crush on someone in your list? I wouldn’t say I have a “crush,” but there are people on my list whom I have strong emotional ties to.

Is there anyone on your list that you would trust with your password? Yes, a few.

Pose: Exposeur – Independence at The Liaison Collaborative

For outfit credits, please visit my latest post at Lipstick, Lemon Drops & Love!